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I’m More Cuban Than I Thought!

March 16, 2008 By Marta Darby 4 Comments

Hi everyone, it’s Amy.

 I’m not sure if you know this or not, but my Mom and Dad
divorced when I was 3 (which totally worked out because I have a really awesome
Dad now!  ;-D)

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Anyway, after the divorce, we (Mom, Adam, & I) moved in
with Mom’s parents who lived in Anaheim.  Anaheim is still
where many Orange County Cubans are. 

But
back then, it was THE PLACE in the “Oh Si” for Cubans. There was and still is a large Latin
Community in Anaheim.

My street was called Ken Way,
which was a cul-de-sac.  My house was at the end of the cul-de-sac on the right side. It was in that house that all the great Noche Buenas
happened.

There was the perfect tree for climbing in the big front
yard. There was a “club house” in the
back.

The back!

The back was big enough to play baseball with my
cousins. It was lined with roses. There were giant trees . . . it was a GREAT
backyard. (Both AWESOME and BIG.)

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And inside! There was
this super long hallway that led to all three bedrooms and the one
bathroom. But if we shut all the doors,
this long hallway was pitch black. So
whenever my cousins would come over, we would make the hallway really dark and
play a game we called “Darky-darky.” (Original, I know.)

At night, my abuelo would call me into his room and tell me
a bedtime story. It was in that house
that I remember my first café con leche. I remember watching the novela “Pobre Diabla” with my abuela. (Why she let me watch it, I’m not sure . . .)

 I have so many memories in and of that house. I could talk about it for hours. Days even.
Plus, the neighbors all adored me. I even went to school with a girl who lived
across the street. 

Our school was just a few blocks away (or so it seemed to my
young eyes). I went to kindergarten there
and had the same teacher my much older cousin had had. Mrs. Axel. I loved it there. I went to first
grade there. I was THE. MOST. POPULAR.
GIRL. IN. SCHOOL.

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No really. I knew
everyone. I liked everyone. Everyone knew me. Everyone loved me. (Mom says I was also the only blond at that
school, but that’s not important right now. ;-D)

There was even a boy who adored me and I adored him right
back. His name was Andy Garcia. I swear. What are the odds? 

When I started second grade, Mom told me we were moving to Mission
Viejo. My teacher invited
me to be part of a special book club of advanced readers, but I had to decline
because I was moving.

And by mid-October . . . I was in a new school and I didn’t
know anyone. Sure, I made a couple of friends,
but there were cliques at this school.
I was an outsider.
And no-one in this new town spoke Spanish. (which is lame because it had a Spanish name
“Mission Viejo”)

And I’m not sure if I’ve ever quite recovered from it.

 Last week I was driving through Anaheim (ironically, I feel “at home” there) and found myself in my old
neighborhood. I found my old house. It was different. Someone had taken out the great climbing tree
and added a bedroom. It was a different
color. There were other people living in
it. But it was still my house.

I know it’s childish, but I have this secret dream that one
day “when I grow up” I’m going to buy that house and move back.

My 97 year old Tio Abuelo talks about buying “una finca en Cuba”
and moving back too.

Sometimes people will ask me about Cuba and say, “How can you miss a place you’ve never been? How can you identify with your Cuban side so
much?”

Sometimes I’ve wondered how I can feel so strongly like I’m
in exile too . . . How is it that I can weep as if I lost my childhood home in
an instant and have never been able to go back . . . As if I had to acclimate
to a new world, but desperately miss my old one?

 Oh wait . . .

. . . maybe I’m more Cuban than I thought.

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Comments

  1. Raphael says

    March 17, 2008 at 1:52 pm

    Yes…..you are 100% Cuban amiguita.I’m sure all your dreams will come through; you deserve it 😉

    Reply
  2. nora says

    March 17, 2008 at 9:27 pm

    Amy,You are as beautiful a woman as you were a child. Your nostalgia was described artfully and I understand your yearning. I, too, used to think about someday owning my childhood home but I realized even if I did, I could never recreate the magic of my childhood.
    You have magic ahead of you. Your future is as bright as you are lovely.
    Nora

    Reply
  3. Susan says

    March 18, 2008 at 5:04 am

    Beautiful, wistful post! Keep writing, Amy!

    Reply
  4. Katie!! says

    March 18, 2008 at 11:43 pm

    It was the best house EVER. the best backyard to play in the best hallways and rooms to play in. i have so many great memories in that house as well. i have wondered about that house and it makes me really sad that someone else lives there. i always wished they would have kept it, it actually kinda stings knowing someone ripped the tree out and added a room.amy jean! i miss your face! i want to hang out when i get home
    <3

    Reply

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