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Love/Hate

October 15, 2007 By Marta Darby 12 Comments

P9238684I hate it when he’s gone.

Hate it.

I have trouble sleeping when he’s gone, and so I pile up pillows on "his side" in an attempt to fool myself that he is there. 

It doesn’t work.  So I struggle with the insomnia.

I tell myself that because it’s just me and the kids we can just go out and get a burger for dinner and I don’t have to cook.  But cooking is relaxing and therapeutic for me, so not only do I end up cooking, but baking, too.  Because when he gets home he’ll want a cool dessert.

I know. Dork.

So I struggle with this dichotomy:  I love having time to myself, but I hate it when he’s gone.

Mostly because I just can’t sleep.

But of course, he always returns.

And he brings me, not just a souvenir, but something that reminded him of me when he saw it and so he got it knowing I’d love it. And I do.

"I’m glad to be home. I had trouble sleeping," he tells me.  (I smile.)

So, now he’s home and we both breathe a sigh of relief because now we can both finally get some sleep. 😉

This is what he brought me:
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Can you guess where he was? 
And how this post ties in to a movie title?
(I crack myself up. =D)

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  1. Julio C. Zangroniz says

    October 15, 2007 at 3:31 am

    Easy…Seattle.
    The movie: Sleeping in Seattle, with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan.
    Nice cup!
    Even nicer post!
    Julio
    P.S. If there was a prize in this contest, please mail it to the address on my website… 🙂

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  2. Kristen Benson says

    October 15, 2007 at 10:59 am

    Oh, even *I* got that one…you lobbed a softball for me…since I regularly flunk the Kevin Bacon game, I thank you. Okay, back to teaching school…and maybe time for a second latte (of course, home variety and NOT Starbucks…yuck)

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  3. Marta says

    October 15, 2007 at 3:45 pm

    Julio, you’re right. He was in Seattle, but the movie is. . .SLEEPLESS in Seattle. =D
    I’ll have to think of a cool prize….
    Besos!
    Marta

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  4. norita says

    October 15, 2007 at 8:11 pm

    Who is Julio? I love that; SLEEPING in Seattle? That might be the cutest thing I have heard all month!On a more serious note, that photo of you two is absolutely lovely.
    (sigh)
    Norita

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  5. Kristen Benson says

    October 15, 2007 at 10:08 pm

    Just for the record I *knew* it was SleepLESS in Seattle but I didn’t want to hurt Julio’s feelings. I only tell you that, Marti, cuz I’d like a prize too :o) As you know I’m needing a little cheer of late…

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  6. Marta says

    October 15, 2007 at 10:10 pm

    N -Julio is my Cuban photographer friend who lives on the right coast.
    (P.S. I liked that photo, too. Thanks to my sweet Lucy.)

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  7. Marta says

    October 15, 2007 at 10:19 pm

    Kristen,You are so cute.
    Now I have to get creative with those prizes, huh? =D

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  8. kristen Benson says

    October 15, 2007 at 10:49 pm

    Yep…pink boxes are always nice…speaking of…at CHEP they have the sign ups for the cake walk this year and Stephanie was looking at it and remembered she won Lucy’s cake last year and how we brought it over to your house and shared it together. Also, the other night I Steph picked out Gertrude McFuzz for her bedtime story and paused over Lucy’s autograph to her. Even though Steph doesn’t see Lucy that often anymore she still LOVES LUCY!!!

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  9. Julio C. Zangroniz says

    October 16, 2007 at 6:41 am

    Dear Marta and Faithful Readers:For the record, I knew it was “Sleepless” rather than “Sleeping.” If nothing else, because I own a copy of the flick in that ancient format, VHS. It is stored in my basement –and I actually took the trouble to look it up because at first I couldn’t think of the name of that annoying skinny blonde who was Hanks’ love interest. I don’t know why, but I find her tremendously annoying in everything she does.
    But I digress. At any rate, I thought that since the “theme” of the post was “sleeping” (or maybe “not sleeping”) I would change it to that. Thought it would be funny. Evidently, it wasn’t.
    In any case, as to prizes, I think a small box of your fritas would be nice… if only Federal Express could deliver them hot…!
    Believe it or not, I will be photographing a Civil War reenactment at a place called Cedar Creek in Virginia this weekend, and when I made up the menu for the weekend, I actually placed your “fritas” recipe in it, but after buying most of the ingredients, I decided to wait because it will be way too difficult to do make them with nothing but two pans, a grate and a bonfire fueled by nothing but wood.
    Primitive life is hell.
    Julio

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  10. norita says

    October 16, 2007 at 8:48 am

    Martita,If i may please leave a note for your darling friend, Julio
    Julio,
    You were very correct that you were amusing us by changing the name to Sleeping. I think it was a very cute play on words in regards to Marti’s very sweet post. You are also very correct in saying that the love interest in the movie is an annoying blond; one reason I never made in through that movie. I wish you the best on your upcoming photo shoot, roughing it. You are a better man than I, to be sure,
    Norita

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  11. Pam says

    October 16, 2007 at 1:39 pm

    I love the cup and saucer!!!!!!

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  12. Marta says

    October 16, 2007 at 6:19 pm

    Julio -On my list of Things To Do in My Life is to go to a Civil War Re-enactment.
    It just seems like something wonderfully surreal.
    Too bad you can’t make the fritas. (primitive for me is a Best Western. =D)
    Glad you’re photographing it. I will check your site for photos.
    Besos,
    Martica

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