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What do you call your Abuela?

July 14, 2008 By Marta Darby 22 Comments

The span in age between me and my oldest sister, Ofie, is about fifteen years. Which means she was married and had her first child, Annette, by the time I was nine. Which means that at that point in my young life, my mother, Luz, became a grandmother.

“La Abuela!”
She had waited so long to finally hear those words. She could barely wait until Annette started talking!

Ah, but let me tell you about Annette – she was a precocious and clever and creative child, who, as soon as she could talk and found out that her grandmother’s name was Luz Aurora started calling her Luza. And that name has stuck.

Luza. That’s how she even introduces herself now. My sisters and I call her Luza. She is Luza to all the other fifteen grandchildren and the seven great-grands. Luza is what all her friends call her now.

Ironically, there is still one grandchild who calls her Abuela.
You guessed it.
Annette, her very first grandchild, the one who baptized her as Luza, is now the only one who calls her Abuela. Go figure!

I secretly suspect that because she was the first grand, and the one who gave her that special nickname, my mom loves her the most. But don’t tell the rest of them.

Annette

Still clever and creative, smart and generous.
She’s a wonderful daughter, granddaughter, niece, and friend.

So, tell me: What do you call your abuela?

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  1. maria eugenia says

    July 14, 2008 at 12:56 am

    Marta,Another lovely post. My father grew up in a very large Cuban family in Matanzas. He and all his cousins absolutely loved their grandmother Nena. Everyone called her “bola Nena.” She was said to love the nickname, and my dad said it fit her well because she was as round as a ball! LOL
    Carinos,
    Maria Eugenia

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  2. Kikita says

    July 14, 2008 at 10:56 am

    Felicidades Prima!

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  3. Marta from NJ says

    July 14, 2008 at 1:16 pm

    I loved this story, so I had to share my own:Being the first, and favorite, grand, I had the pleasure of naming my grandfather. As legend goes, my mom was teaching me to say abuelo, but all that I could get out was the first part, “Abu.” My grandfather thus became Abu (accent on the ‘u’) not only to me and all of my cousins, but everybody who has met him since.

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  4. Marta says

    July 14, 2008 at 3:00 pm

    maria eugenia & Marta from NJ -The nickname thing is one of those idiosyncratic Cuban things that I just LOVE.
    Besos,
    Marta, Martica, Martona, Martilla, Marti, ad infinitum…
    read about my own nickname identity crisis here:
    https://www.mybigfatcubanfamily.com/my_big_fat_cuban_family/2007/09/when-i-was-born.html

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  5. Kikita says

    July 14, 2008 at 3:32 pm

    Marta from NJ,Did you know Abu means “father” in certain forms of Arabic?
    The name is more fitting than you thought! 🙂

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  6. Claudia4Libertad says

    July 14, 2008 at 5:11 pm

    Marta:I’m Italian so this doesn’t apply, but my daughter calls her Peruvian grandmother “Abuela.” My grandmom was “Nonna.” 🙂
    You are so lucky to have a mom who is so vibrant!
    Annette is so pretty! Happy birthday to her!

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  7. Kelley says

    July 14, 2008 at 5:47 pm

    Happy Birthday Annette!!! I never knew you were the one who came up with Luza…nice one.

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  8. Mica says

    July 14, 2008 at 11:09 pm

    I will list the following endearments for the Abuelas in my family:Yeya (Yeyita when the situation gets critical)
    Tati
    Aba
    Mima
    Mami
    Abuela (pronounced AWElllaaa)
    Abela
    I love them all because they represent the most wonderful thing we have in our lives, our Cuban Moms.
    God bless them all!
    xoxo
    Mica

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  9. class-factotum says

    July 15, 2008 at 12:17 am

    Feliz cumpleanos, Annette, from the other Annette!

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  10. Marielle says

    July 19, 2008 at 5:36 pm

    dominican here but I was also a first grandchild and christened my paternal grandfather “Abo” when I couldn’t get the whole abuelo out. That was it. From then on he was Abo to the grandkids, the adults and it wasn’t until I was older that I realized Abo wasn’t his real name.My own grandma we call Abuela and my hubby (american from the south) had a granny so my kids have an Abuela AND a Granny.

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  11. Missy says

    December 3, 2008 at 3:07 pm

    Mine is Mami Nena. 🙂

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  12. Jana says

    January 2, 2012 at 2:10 pm

    En España, muchos la llamamos “Bueli” de abuelita.Un besito!
    http://janakitchen.blogspot.com

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  13. Daisy says

    September 2, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    Yaya.

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  14. S. Diaz says

    September 2, 2017 at 12:25 pm

    My daughter, the first grandchild, called my mother Ema (Eeeema) and my Cuban father, Paga. The name was appropriate because he did spend a lot of money on her. Every grandchild since used those same names. His headstone has it too…along with “DeeDee” which is what we children called him. I miss him so much. —S. Diaz
    Alfonso Diaz
    DeeDee
    Paga
    1919-2003

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  15. Luisita says

    September 2, 2017 at 12:53 pm

    In my home was for abueloni my grand mama y for my grand father, papi viejo ,

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  16. Ella says

    September 2, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    My daughter (first grandchild) would call my mom Abi, my MIL Aba and my FIL Abo. However, my MIL insisted on being called Abuela!!! She got her wish! My mom is still Abi…because she IS special. ☺️❤️

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  17. Mercedes says

    September 2, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    I tried to have my daughter (first grandchild) call my mother “abuelita”. Well, she became Bita and all eight grandchildren called her that, when I became a grandma I wanted to be called “abuela”. My oldest granddaughter started calling me Beba and it has stuck. Everyone in the family calls me Beba. My husband gets called Papa.

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  18. Debbie says

    September 2, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    My older sister was the first of all the grandchildren so what she said, stuck!
    Mom’s side: Abita and Ito (she couldnt say abuelita or abuelito)
    Dad’s side: Abella and Abello (which coincidentally was my grandmothers maiden name…confusing)
    Miss all 4 of them a ton!!!

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  19. Luis Hernandez says

    September 3, 2017 at 4:32 am

    I left Cuba as an infant, and thus never knew my grandparents, and never will. I have only seen them in very old pictures. I have a sadness that will be with me for my whole life……..😩

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  20. Annie says

    September 3, 2017 at 6:58 am

    I called my maternal grandparents Abuela and Abuelo, while others called them Yeya/ Yeyo or Abuela Gloria y Abuelo Tello.
    My paternal grandparents (who I never met because they were in Cuba) were Mamamima and Papú to all their grandkids as far as I know. I’m not sure how they got those nicknames, and I have never heard of people with those same nicknames.

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  21. Lilly says

    September 4, 2017 at 12:10 am

    Leave it to Cubans to come up with some great nick names for grandparents. I was the first grandchild, and called her Mamita. I don’t remember my grandfather, he passed away when I was 3, I’m the only one who ever met him. Thank God for pictures. My brother would call her that, but then somehow all the grandkids started calling her Tata. Now my Mom wants to be called Mamita instead of abuela or Grandma. She’s very vain and doesn’t want to be called something that represents old.! She’ll never change.

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  22. barbywithawhyy says

    October 17, 2017 at 7:15 am

    I just love all your stories…and your family! My daughter was my mom’s youngest grandchild at the time. (She’s 26 now but “that’s not important right now”. Lol!) Anyway, trying to say “abuelita” came out as “abuita” (which she pronounced “aweeta” and when she learned how to write, she spelled as “aweta”.) The funny thing was that after she ‘named’ my mom, all the other grandchildren whose ages spanned from 12 to 17 and who had been calling her “abuela” all their lives started calling her “aweta” too. And it continued when my son was born and when all the other great grand children came, they all called her, and still call her, “aweta”. Funny side note: My daughter’s fiancee calls her “aweta”, too!

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