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Best of Both Worlds

April 26, 2009 By Marta Darby 7 Comments

WARNING: A little bit of a homeschool rant coming up….

I'm always a surprised that when people discover that we homeschool our children they ask two primary questions.
You would think the questions would have to do with the actual mechanics of doing school at home, but they don't. (I know. It's shocking to me, too.)

If you homeschool your kids, you know what's coming next:

  1. "What about socialization?"
  2. "What about the prom??"

The first question (with the dreaded "S" word) really shows a certain amount of ignorance. (I know. But I had to say it.)  The Cultural Dictionary definition is as follows:

socialization
Learning the customs, attitudes, and values of a social group, community, or culture.
Socialization is essential for the development of individuals who can
participate and function within their societies, as well as for
ensuring that a society's cultural features will be carried on through
new generations.

If you've ever been to school (public or private) you know that their primary goal is to educate and that any kind of  social interaction or talking (in classrooms, hallways, or assemblies) is discouraged. So kids are left to be "socialized" during unsupervised free periods with mostly immature peers.  They are not "learning the customs and attitudes of … culture" they are usually learning how the pecking order of popularity works. 

Ah, but that's a rant for another day….. (For other posts on homeschooling and how exactly my kids are socialized – read my homeschooling archives – in which you'll read about and see them interacting with lots of people of all different ages and able to properly "… function within their societies…" – but that's not important right now.)

The second question is just as mind-boggling to me. "What about the prom?" Really?? Umm…what about prom?

I seriously hate to think that one high school dance (albeit with fabulous formal wear!) is the high water mark of anyone's high school experience, but let me go ahead and address that today…

… with photos of Lucy and her friends going to their prom….  😉

Held at the beautiful Disneyland Hotel, this is their one big dance of the year and because of the limited student body (who all know one another), the dance is open to both under and upperclassmen.  There were about 100 kids in attendance and easily chaperoned.

They didn't go in couples (which I thought was great and age-appropriate. =D), so they skipped over the insecure, uncomfortable, dressed-up-and-trying-to-act-grown-up-and-impress-each-other part of the ritual.

Instead they went in groups and all danced together and laughed together and overall had a wonderful time.

Prom prep
The girls arrive early to do hair and make up.

Prom food
Mrs. R set out a fine spread for them to munch on while prepping.

Prom girls
Aren't they just lovely? They also just happen to be whip-smart (homeschooled, remember?) and amazingly witty.

Prom lucy
Dad was a little reluctant to let her out of the house. Can you blame him?

Prom girls goofy
So, yes. My daughter is homeschooled, appropriately socialized, and she got to go to prom.

Any other questions??  😉

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  1. Mica says

    April 27, 2009 at 8:14 am

    I hope you had fun Lucy, these are the best times.xoxo

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  2. Alison R says

    April 27, 2009 at 10:11 am

    Woo hoo!(: You tell ’em, Mrs. Darby!

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  3. class factotum says

    April 27, 2009 at 10:23 am

    I’ll worry about home-schooled kids not being properly socialized when one of them goes into a high school with a gun and shoots people.Until then, keep up the great work!
    And Lucy, you and your friends look adorable.
    PS I wasn’t invited to my prom or a single high-school dance, for that matter, yet I made it to adulthood relatively unscarred. I’m not bitter. Really.

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  4. Angela says

    April 27, 2009 at 1:56 pm

    I have always admired parents who homeschool their children. It was something that I considered doing when my 17 year-old was ready for school, but I was scared that I wasn’t qualified, but more importantly didn’t have the patience to keep all three of my kids occupied (in other words, I was a coward). Now if I had to do it all over, I would have made the choice to homeschool them, especially with so many resources available today on the internet. God bless you, Marta. The girls all looked lovely, by the way!

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  5. Marta M. Darby says

    April 27, 2009 at 9:39 pm

    c-f,You may not have been invited to any high school dances, but you married well. I like the way those scales are tipping. =D

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  6. Marta M. Darby says

    April 27, 2009 at 9:41 pm

    Thanks, Angela.Shhh! Don’t tell my kids, but I’m not really qualified to teach them…I just point them in the right direction and run for cover. =D

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  7. Mario says

    April 28, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    Marta,This world would be a much better place if more parents gave their children the same amounts of control AND freedom that you give yours. I have a few choice words for those that question your methods, though I’m sure they aren’t ones you would ever use. LOL. And may I just say…in a totally NON-creepy-old-man way…that Miss Lucy is blossoming into an absolutely beautiful young woman. Congratulations to you and Eric on all counts.

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