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Following the leader

August 18, 2008 By Marta Darby 9 Comments

My mom (back in the day) used to babysit her grandchildren.  As long as I can remember, there were always assorted nieces and nephews underfoot.

But these three….
Tormentillo trio

Michael, John-Paul and Nicole. The three of them gave her a total run for her money.

And Michael, as I recall, had the advantage of being 2 weeks older than Nikki and so he declared himself the de-facto leader of this trio. 

Although, Nikki totally knew how to get under his skin by throwing out random factoids like, "You don't have a dog." Which would cause him to meltdown into inconsolable tears.  She didn't have a dog, either, but that fact didn't deter her from tormenting Michael, or as I would say, that's not important right now.  My dad always called her Tormentillo. Obviously, she comes by the name honestly.  =D

If they ever got in trouble, John and Nikki would always use Michael as the excuse: "Michael told me to do it." Of course, Michael never complained because this cemented his place as The Leader.

So, fast-forward to one month ago in Miami…..

 Tormentillo 3

The Tormentillo Trio back together again. (from left to right: John-Paul, Michael, & Nicole)

Of course, we were all in Miami for Michael & Kimberly's wedding, but….

John (Michael's younger brother – the baby in the above photos) had an announcement:

"Jennifer and I are engaged."

Shut. Up.

Meet the lovely Jennifer, John's soon-to-be bride (in April, 2009)….
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Congratulations, kids! And Jennifer, welcome to our big, fat, Cuban family!!

We were just coming down from the high of Michael's wedding and now, John is engaged too? Incredible!

But wait…..

Last weekend, Nikki sends me this picture:

Ring 

"Isaac and I are engaged!"

What?? Didn't we just do this??

SHUT. UP.

Meet the lovely Isaac, Nicole's soon-to-be husband (sometime in 2009 – possibly in Guadalajara, where his family is from.)
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Congratulations, kids! And Isaac, welcome to our big, fat, Cuban family!! (whoa….deja vú…)

Looks like John and Nikki were just following Michael's lead AGAIN. Or at least John was. 

I think Nikki just got swept off her feet…

God, I LOVE my family.

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  1. Julie says

    August 18, 2008 at 10:34 pm

    It was one thing to have Michael get married but John too!! Within a year of Michael’s?!?! I’m feeling a bit left out, sheeeesh.

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  2. Kikita says

    August 19, 2008 at 12:27 am

    Careful what you say Julie . . . the murmurs have already begun about who’s going to be next . . .Johnny (ha, I still reserve the right to call you that) & Jen,
    Congratulations! I can’t wait!
    Nikki & Isaac,
    I’m so excited for you! Besos!
    -Cousin Amy

    Reply
  3. Kelley says

    August 19, 2008 at 12:33 am

    SO awesome! I am so stoked for these upcoming weddings. Let’s coordinate people, I wanna make sure I can be at every one! ps… Jay just got licensed to perform weddings, he did his first one last week! So if anyone needs an officiant…I’m just saying.

    Reply
  4. Marta says

    August 19, 2008 at 12:50 am

    Kelley,”Officiant” makes him sound so much taller. =D

    Reply
  5. Michael Verdes says

    August 19, 2008 at 1:36 am

    First… I don’t remember crying about anything.Second… Jennifer and Issac are perfect for John and Nicole.
    Third… I think this means that by default I can boss Jennifer and Issac around.

    Reply
  6. Amanda says

    August 19, 2008 at 7:39 am

    Wonderful news, congrats to all!

    Reply
  7. Ody from Miami Lakes says

    August 19, 2008 at 9:54 am

    Wonderful post…..Marta, does that mean we’ll have you in Miami
    in April?!?!?!?!?! Get your social calendar out
    and pencil me in for some friendship time together.

    Reply
  8. Marta says

    August 19, 2008 at 10:12 am

    Michael-First…That’s called selective amnesia.
    Second… Jennifer and Isaac are indeed perfect and John and Nicole. You couldn’t have planned it better. 😉
    Third… You can’t help but be bossy. It’s in our blood. =D

    Reply
  9. Marta says

    August 19, 2008 at 10:22 am

    Ody,The wedding is in Dallas, not Miami…. but if I’m back in Miami next year, we will certainly find some time to spend together….

    Reply

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