El Tiki-tiki – v. to harp on a subject over and over and then resort to guilt until your victim succumbs to your wishes. Mami: "You have to have a party for your Tia before she leaves." Me: "Umm. . . what with the holidays, it’s been a little busy. I don’t know if I can do it." Mami (issuing a big, heavy theatrical sigh): "Fine. It’s not really that important, she’s only 91 and visiting from Cuba. We’ll have lots of other times to celebrate." Although seemingly innocuous, "el tiki-tiki" is more effective if it’s been used repeatedly for years, making the victim more susceptible to acquiesce quickly.
Celebrating. It’s what we Cubans do best. (Besides "el tiki-tiki", but that’s not important right now. =D)
My visiting aunt, whom we call Tia, turned 91 on December 24th and well, wow, it just slipped right by unnoticed. My mom happened to mention it just last week. . . about 50 times – with the announcement that she was going to go to Miami to celebrate her 94th birthday – this was a slightly veiled hint that we were such birthday celebration slackers, that she needed to leave the state to get a proper celebration. (Technically, here is where "el tiki-tiki" started, but again, not important right now.)
A few phone calls to my sisters, catered sandwiches, balloons, flowers, and a cake – add some Cubans and voila! Insta-party! Let’s surprise them and make it a double celebration! Great idea, until it occurred to us, right at the moment when we were yelling "surprise" at the two nonagenarians and they clutched their chests, that perhaps surprising these two wasn’t really such a great idea. 😉
This is what 94 and 91 looks like in my family:
I’m happy to report that they survived the surprise. They loved that it was a joint celebration.
They loved that between them we were celebrating 185 years. They laughed. They cried. Success.
Although I’m pretty sure that the cake with the 185 candles could be seen from space. =D
Ms Calabaza says
Great genes in your family! No, not Levi’s.
keb says
wonderful post – esp considering the BACK STORY to wch I’m privy….. :>
Tica Macha says
How WONDERFUL.They look so happy!
Beautiful family, too.
Ody Fabregas says
I loved todays blog. Later that the evening I foundmyself using El Tiki Tiki phrase with my 13 year old
daughter as we drove home from visiting my parent.
Sometimes, “I’ll say, Y sigue con el tiki tiki.”
I love the way you remind me of things while I was
growing up.
Marta says
Ody-El Tiki-tiki is a fact of our Cuban American life, isn’t it?
I’m glad to be the one to remind you of stuff you shouldn’t forget. =D
Taleah says
I love this!!! Always wondered who was the first Cubano to start with the Tiki-Tiki dicharacho! I love your stories, thank you for sharing! You have a wonderful family! Many blessings to you!