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Finding my smile

October 28, 2007 By Marta Darby 7 Comments

Organization for us visual folk is quite a challenge.  I really like to see every option available to me. 

I was kind of ashamed of that until I finally realized that I am this way because God created me this way.  (You got a problem with that? Take it up with Him! =D) 

What "way" am I?? 

  1. I like color.  Lots of color. 
  2. I need to have every project I’m working on close by. 
  3. I don’t mind working on things on top of other things.  I know it looks chaotic, but I know where to find stuff. 
  4. I have to have to have research at my fingertips. 
  5. I have to sketch.
  6. I need lots of input.  Lots of it.  A.D.D. caliber input.  Music going, all my tools surrounding me. 

That’s how I create.  (not a complicated list, is it?)
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Can you guess that it makes the rest of the people I share space with a little uncomfortable?
Well, I’m not completely insensitive.  I listened.  And I found an ally in the most unlikely person: my dentist. (go figure)

Yes.  My dentist (who complains that I never open my mouth wide enough*, but that’s not important right now).  See, while I was waiting in the reception area, I noticed their magazines (all the most current!) are displayed like this.  Titles showing in simple columns. And I commented to Janet, the lovely receptionist.   "It’s always so wonderful coming in here. You have the latest magazines and they’re always so neat." 

"The secret," she told me (even though I was stunned to find out there is an actual "secret" and that kind of distracted me for a while, but that’s not important right now), "is to place the current ones on the table with all the titles visible.  Take last month’s and give them away or throw them away." 

Wait.  It’s possible I blacked out there for a moment overwhelmed by the radical aspect of the whole ‘secret’ task thing.  And did she actually suggest I throw them away?? (don’t judge me.) 😉

"Yes," she explained,"if you haven’t taken the time to read them in a month, you most likely won’t."

I fixated on this sentence as if it were a lifeline I was clutching onto for my very survival. 
"I most likely won’t." 

Hmm. . . maybe she’s right.  I tried it.  First I carefully placed the newest arrivals on the coffee table. 
Then I looked at the giant pile of months gone by and I decided to believe her… "I most likely won’t. I most likely won’t." I repeated it to myself until I began to believe it.  I started tossing and tossing and laughing hysterically. 

Woo-hoo! Look at me go.  "I need some help, kids."  Soon we become The Tossing Darbys.  (we should be in the circus!)

And now… look!  The photo up there is how my coffee table looks like all the time now.  The old magazines?  Gave them to Goodwill.  I don’t think I even miss them (much).   

Now I feel self-esteem.  I think I’m a little taller, even.  My smile is certainly brighter.  I’m laughing at how simple it all was.

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I guess if nothing else,  that will make my dentist happy because I can finally keep my mouth wide open.  =D

(Note: *It’s not usually a problem at any other time.)

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  1. Adinda says

    October 29, 2007 at 4:27 am

    I should totally do that as well… I managed to do that with clothes I haven’t worn in the past 6 to 12 months, now I should probably do that with the rest of my things as well!But nice going, really 😀 Interesting to see what dentists can be good for!

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  2. class factotum says

    October 29, 2007 at 6:00 am

    I get rid of my magazines, too, but I drop them off at Target House, which is where the families of the kids at St Jude’s stay. If you’re away from home and don’t know anyone, even a month-old magazine looks good.

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  3. norita says

    October 29, 2007 at 8:25 am

    Girlfriend,Congrats! As a fellow former hoarder, I honor your willingness to change. I used to keep all of my old, I mean old, mags under my bed.
    My main comment though, is to say YOUR TEETH ARE BEAUTIFUL! Seriously, your smile is fabulous, I know, but that cute shot of you laughing, really shows off your chompers perfectly!
    Felicitaciones!
    N

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  4. Marta says

    October 29, 2007 at 11:37 am

    N-Thanks for the complement. I am quite proud of my solid, straight teeth. I can brag too, that I never had to wear braces.
    But I have no reason to be proud or to brag. I inherited the good teeth from my dad. (I would have preferred cash and jewels, but good teeth will probably last me longer.) =D

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  5. Carrie_in_TN says

    October 29, 2007 at 6:42 pm

    I can’t breathe. I estimate having a 4-foot stack of old magazines I promise I will read and rip for inspiration and contacts. One day…Good for you! You inspire me daily…but I am not getting rid of my stack.

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  6. keb says

    October 29, 2007 at 6:50 pm

    oh c’mon, as if you ever entered yr dentist’s ofc in a waking state! you & I both know you have to be drugged into a near comotose condition in order to get you to the dentist…. :> But I still dig the story: MA (no, not marijuana Anonymous) here you come!

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  7. Marta says

    October 29, 2007 at 7:38 pm

    keb-Of course, you’re right. I always have to take a chill pill to get me through my dental checkups. That explains why I had the magazine conversation with the receptionist and hung on her every word. =D

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